Can u hear me?

Do you want to know one particularly nasty myth that keeps most couples and families from experiencing the tremendous benefits of effective communication?Somewhere along the way, we've come to believe that real communication occurs when we understand another person's words. But true communication usually doesn't occur until each person understands the feelings that underlie the spoken words.Suppose a wife says, "I really don't think our kids should go to public school. I think we should homeschool them."Carefully consider those two sentences. The wife used no feeling words, but all thinking words. So if her husband replies, "So what you're saying is you don't think our kids should go to public school," he's completely missed the point. He's accurately reflected to her the words she just spoke, but he remains completely in the dark about her real concern.But what if he listens for the emotions beneath the words? What if he says, "What you're saying is you feel really concerned about our kids"? Presto! This time, he's "got it." He's tapped into her real concern—her fear for their kids. Asking just that one question in order to discover true understanding will revolutionize your communication.People generally feel more understood, cared for, and connected when the communication focuses on their emotions and feelings, rather than merely on their words or thoughts.
Dr. Gary Smalley.

Communication Breakdowns?

"You're not understanding me!" Ever hear those words?"Oh, honestly! You just don't understand me! How can we work this out if you don't 'get' me?""But I asked you yesterday what we should do about our finances. You said you didn't care!""Please! You know that's important to me. I can't talk about money when you don't seem to want to talk about our relationship."Have you ever overheard a conversation anything like this? Maybe you've been involved in one, either on the giving or receiving end. It reflects a very common reason why many people fail at healthy, positive relationships; they fail because they believe that effective communication between people in a relationship should be simple. Easy. Effortless.It's not! Actually, it's quite complex. And it takes a lot of hard work. But, trust me, it's worth every second of effort! Many of us get really frustrated and angry with each other, as if the other person intentionally did something stupid or purposefully failed to "get it."If we forget that effective communication is a complex process that takes a great deal of work, we can easily find ourselves getting angry with the other person and wondering how he or she could be so dense. Love is a decision and a commitment. Communication is the road to keep that journey fulfilling.
Dr.Gary Smalley

Nuevo Barrio!!!

Bueno ya hace un tiempito q vivo aca y tb sera x un tiempito nomas... pero mientras tanto hay q adaptarse, no?
Mientras estoy escribiendo esto son las 11.20 pm y hay nenes jugando en la calle... increible, no?
En los otros lugares donde he vivido, mas cerca del centro, la gente es medio diferente. Todos andabamos como locos llendo y viniendo de nuestros trabajos, estudios, etc etc. Aca es como q la gente tiene tiempo, o mejor dicho se hace el tiempo.
Cuando te encuentran por la calle, se paran a charlar, los vecinos se visitan, todos casi saben la vida de unos y otros.
Recuerdo cuando era chica en la ciudad q vivia era parecido a este barrio. Es loco, pense q era xq habia pasado el tiempo y toda la gente habia cambiado pero no, depende mucho del lugar.
La gente aca cuando se sube al colectivo dice: buen dia! guau sigo sorprendida.

Casada no cansada puede ser :P

Uno de mis compañeros de salsa le dijo a otro: "ella esta casada"...a lo q dije: ehhh? yo?
Si, mire tus anillos y por mas q tenes muchos ninguno es de casamiento pero se nota q estas casada.
Ya estaba re curiosa para ver su lectura de mi, asi q me quede callada y me dijo si, se nota en como nos tratas a todos y tambien siempre te llama cuando terminas la clase, siempre estas hablando por celular. Bue, me rei un rato y me fui sin aclarar nada.

Interesante analisis de este flaco (del cual no se ni el nombre por supuesto :S)
Tengo q reconocer q me dejo pensando...