Communication Breakdowns?

"You're not understanding me!" Ever hear those words?"Oh, honestly! You just don't understand me! How can we work this out if you don't 'get' me?""But I asked you yesterday what we should do about our finances. You said you didn't care!""Please! You know that's important to me. I can't talk about money when you don't seem to want to talk about our relationship."Have you ever overheard a conversation anything like this? Maybe you've been involved in one, either on the giving or receiving end. It reflects a very common reason why many people fail at healthy, positive relationships; they fail because they believe that effective communication between people in a relationship should be simple. Easy. Effortless.It's not! Actually, it's quite complex. And it takes a lot of hard work. But, trust me, it's worth every second of effort! Many of us get really frustrated and angry with each other, as if the other person intentionally did something stupid or purposefully failed to "get it."If we forget that effective communication is a complex process that takes a great deal of work, we can easily find ourselves getting angry with the other person and wondering how he or she could be so dense. Love is a decision and a commitment. Communication is the road to keep that journey fulfilling.
Dr.Gary Smalley